There are absences that fill the entire space. And then there are those tiny moments—a scent in the air, a song at just the right time, a shiver for no reason—that give the impression that love, at least, hasn’t disappeared. Whatever your beliefs, many bereaved people report experiencing unsettling, sometimes soothing, “winks.” Without promising certainty, here are some signs often mentioned… and above all, gentle ways to welcome them without fear.
The “little coincidences” that fall just too close
Finding a light-colored feather on your path, stumbling upon a coin in an unlikely place, repeatedly encountering a rare first name… On paper, everything can be explained. But when these details occur at the precise moment you were thinking of the person, they take on a different flavor: that of an intimate message, like a post-it note left by life.
A simple tip: jot down the date and context in your phone (“where I was, what I was thinking, how I was feeling”). Sometimes, rereading these notes is helpful—you can sense a kind of continuity.
Scent: the memory that returns unexpectedly
Among the most frequently cited signs is the familiar smell. A touch of perfume, a scent of soap, the smell of a dish associated with the person… and suddenly, you are transported back to them as if someone had opened a door.
Smell is also the sense most closely linked to memory. If this happens to you, there’s no need to choose between spirituality and rational explanation: in both cases, the effect is the same… a powerful, often comforting reminder at the heart of grief and its signs .
Dreams that resemble a real encounter
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Some nights, we dream of a deceased loved one in a surprisingly vivid way. Not a hazy dream, but a crystal-clear scene, with a feeling of peace upon waking. Many describe these dreams as moments of consolation: we don’t feel “strange,” we feel… at peace.
A sweet little ritual: upon waking, jot down a phrase, an image, or a detail. Not to analyze, but to cherish this gift.
When your body reacts: chills, goosebumps, sudden calm
A passing shiver, goosebumps without a breeze, or conversely, a feeling of profound calm enveloping you… Some people perceive it as a nearby presence. Others interpret it as a natural bodily reaction to a surfacing emotion. Both can coexist: your body sometimes speaks for itself.
If this worries you, return to something very concrete: breathe slowly, feel your feet on the ground, drink a glass of water. The idea is not to “chase away” the moment, but to remain safe in your feelings.
Devices that “act up” and the song that comes at the right time
A flashing light, a radio switching on, a symbolic song that suddenly appears… It’s a classic trope in stories of grief. Technical explanations exist, too. But the timing often strikes a chord.
A piece of advice accessible to everyone: if it makes you feel good, welcome it as a sign of love, not as something worrying. And if it makes you uncomfortable, you have the right to set a boundary—even internally.
Animals, these sensors of the environment
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A cat staring at a corner, a dog suddenly becoming very affectionate… Animals react to things we don’t always perceive: tiny noises, smells, changes in routine. Many also project a reassuring presence onto them, because the animal becomes an emotional conduit.
In any case, if your partner comes to cuddle up to you, take it as an invitation to slow down: it is often exactly what is needed in a comforting grief .
What if the real “sign” is what makes you feel good?
Ultimately, the most important thing isn’t proving anything. It’s recognizing what comforts you, stabilizes you, and helps you move forward. If these moments become overwhelming, distressing, or prevent you from living your life, don’t hesitate to talk to a professional listener: grief is a journey, and you don’t have to walk it alone.
Sometimes, love makes no noise: it simply slips into a detail and gently reminds you that you are not alone.
